Clip 4

Judges 4 

Again the Israelites did evil in the eyes of the Lord, now that Ehud was dead. 2 So the Lord sold them into the hands of Jabin king of Canaan, 4 Now Deborah, a prophet, the wife of Lappidoth, was leading[a] Israel at that time. 6 She sent for Barak son of Abinoam from Kedesh in Naphtali and said to him, “The Lord, the God of Israel, commands you: ‘Go, take with you ten thousand men of Naphtali and Zebulun and lead them up to Mount Tabor. 7 I will lead Sisera, the commander of Jabin’s army, with his chariots and his troops to the Kishon River and give him into your hands.’”
 

8 Barak said to her, “If you go with me, I will go; but if you don’t go with me, I won’t go.”

9 “Certainly I will go with you,” said Deborah. “But because of the course you are taking, the honor will not be yours, for the Lord will deliver Sisera into the hands of a woman.” Sisera, meanwhile, fled on foot to the tent of Jael, the wife of Heber the Kenite, because there was an alliance between Jabin king of Hazor and the family of Heber the Kenite.
 

Jump to 18 Jael went out to meet Sisera and said to him, “Come, my lord, come right in. Don’t be afraid.” So he entered her tent, and she covered him with a blanket.

19 “I’m thirsty,” he said. “Please give me some water.” She opened a skin of milk, gave him a drink, and covered him up.

20 “Stand in the doorway of the tent,” he told her. “If someone comes by and asks you, ‘Is anyone in there?’ say ‘No.’”

21 But Jael, Heber’s wife, picked up a tent peg and a hammer and went quietly to him while he lay fast asleep, exhausted. She drove the peg through his temple into the ground, and he died.

 

Habakkuk 2 The Lord’s Answers

2 Then the Lord replied: “Write down the revelation and make it plain on tablets
    so that a herald[b] may run with it. 4 “See, the enemy is puffed up; his desires are not upright—but the righteous person will live by his faithfulness[d]—5  indeed, wine betrays him;  he is arrogant and never at rest. Because he is as greedy as the grave
    and like death is never satisfied, he gathers to himself all the nations
    and takes captive all the peoples. 6 “Will not all of them taunt him with ridicule and scorn, saying, “‘Woe to him who piles up stolen goods and makes himself wealthy by extortion! How long must this go on?’
9  “Woe to him who builds his house by unjust gain,  setting his nest on high
    to escape the clutches of ruin! 10 You have plotted the ruin of many peoples,
    shaming your own house and forfeiting your life.11 The stones of the wall will cry out,
    and the beams of the woodwork will echo it. 12 “Woe to him who builds a city with bloodshed  and establishes a town by injustice! 13 Has not the Lord Almighty determined that the people’s labor is only fuel for the fire, that the nations exhaust themselves for nothing? 14 For the earth will be filled with the knowledge of the glory of the Lord as the waters cover the sea.

15 “Woe to him who gives drink to his neighbors, pouring it from the wineskin till they are drunk, so that he can gaze on their naked bodies! 16 You will be filled with shame instead of glory. Now it is your turn! Drink and let your nakedness be exposed[e]!
The cup from the Lord’s right hand is coming around to you, and disgrace will cover your glory.

1 Corinthians 7

1 Tim 2:9-10 Dress Modestly, self control, respectable not with costly attire.

1 Peter 3:3-4 Adornment should be internal not external,5:5 cloth yourself with Humility, 

Jeremiah 4:30 kind of make fun of Eye shadow.

1 John 2:16 desires of the eyes and pride in possessions is from the world. 

Proverbs 31:30 women dress with the fear of the lord.

Hebrews 13:4 Says marriage should be honored by all and the marriage bed kept pure. 

James Jesus’ bro states in Acts that the Gentile Christians don’t have to get circumcised but they do need to avoid food from idols, sexual immorality and drinking blood of strangled animals. “If you do these things you will do well.”

Ephesians 5:4 No Coarse Joking

 

1. Boundaries within dating

   1. Assume mom is watching you or Dad??? Or Me and that i am very judgemental

   2. No laying down together

   3. No parking, bedrooms, alone in the house. Video calls when you're alone in your bedroom is the same as being alone in the bedroom. 

   4. No drugs or alcohol- you can’t handle this issue already let alone without your full faculties. 

   5. No touching places that should be covered by a real bathing suit or normal underwear

   6. No taking clothes off

   7. No dating non-believers

2. Shock Collars:

   1. Guilt and Shame are Shock collars that should stop you. Don’t live there. Don’t ignore it.

   2. Dating is not marriage - don’t act like it. 

   3. Relationships are addictive save your infatuation for your wife. God, Jesus, Paul are all encouraging you to have lots of sex with your wife and not with anyone else. 

   4. Dating difficulties are short - Marriage difficulties are for life

 

1. Requirements for dating - 

   1. Believer - This is what normal looks like. 

      1. Serving

      2. Worshiper

      3. Studying 

      4. Accountable

   2. Activities - how many common interests do you need. Faith is the only one that actually matters but it is nice to have others.

      1. How do they act in these places

      2. How do they respond to failure, hardship, challenges

   3. Family?

      1. Geography

      2. Siblings - how do they act together

      3. How do they treat their family members

      4. Are her parents people you can look up to or is she pulling away from their bad choices.

   4. Integrity

      1. Gossip or trustworthy

      2. Are they lying to others to get what they want

      3. Are they breaking small rules, keeping dumb secrets

   5. Working? School?

      1. How are they performing in these places? 

 

1. Breaking up

   1. To their face

   2. Quick as you realize it’s needed

   3. Honest as you can be

   4. Respectful and considerate of their feelings

2. How far is to far?

3.        Phil 4:8 – What is true, Honorable, pure, lovely, excellent. Think about these things.

4.        How can I be loving, honorable, where I care about their best in a dating relationship.

5.        IF this person is introduced to your future wife – did you go to far?